There are some people who only contact me when their life gets rough. That is a compliment to me.
Then there are those who will use you as their emotional toxic waste dump site. I know because I had allowed it for years. These types of relationships (and I use the term loosely) are one sided and they usually only call on you when they feel their life has gotten rough, but you get the added extra of them using you without thought of whom they are dumping their emotional toxicity on.
Now, I’m not talking about friends who you enjoy lifting up and they uplift you; where it’s reciprocal.
The types of dumpers are varied. You can have, for example: the users and takers; those who bring chaos, strife and/or unstable energies; those who, on some level, know they just feel better when they dump on…excuse me, “talk” to you. There are also the ones who thrive on being in the victim mode…they want to complain and dump, but don’t want to exert any effort to change it. They just want sympathy for the plight.
It can be harder on those who are strong empaths as well as those who are able to transmute energy, and other energy workers; this is why they feel better after they dump on you. You – your energy, your being – is able to transmute and/or uplift someone else’s energy.
Please don’t allow yourself to be a toxic waste dump site.
How?
Take control of your energy and how you’ll allow others to interact with you – or not interact with you.
– You can quit having contact all together with that person.
– Severely limit the interaction; only interact when you know you’ll have time to detoxify yourself.
– Have the person pay for your time. If they want to pay to just sit and dump, then they can pay you for your time.
– Recommend they see a therapist (whom they’ll have to pay to sit and dump).
– Just say “No,” to the unhealthy dumping.
If you do continue to interact, and after that interaction, I recommend you find a way to detoxify and rebalance yourself; perhaps a shower or maybe an Epsom salt bath. Or ground outside with nature.
Please honor and respect yourself, your energy and your time. Don’t be a toxic waste dump site.
By Jan Toomer
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