If you look at your life on a daily level:
- How many people do you interact with?
- How many places do you go (even if it’s within one building)?
- How many decisions do you make?
- How many compromises?
Our days seem very busy or hectic.
And yet, how many feel alone or isolated? Separated from the bulk of the population?
Many of us had been human conditioned to fit; to belong, to be accepted…but are now feeling that we no longer do belong.
Now, how many of you feel that way since you’ve begun to pull out and away from the drama and trauma games?
Drama and Trauma
Some, by leaving the drama and trauma behind feel adrift, unconnected.
This is the time for your growth.
This is the time for self-realization; for delving within to find out who you are…what your truths are.
You can learn (and this can be an ongoing process) more about who you really are, which means minus:
- others expectations of what they think or believe you to be –
- others beliefs you accepted, but they no longer fit you –
- going against what feels morally and energetically right.
Self-exploration and discovery have the possibility of being a wondrous adventure…and may be quite freeing.
Deferring to Others
I had never picked, or bought, bedroom furniture or dishes by myself. I’m not complaining, just stating a fact.
My husband had loved a bedroom set we had discovered at a furniture store. Suited me fine; it wasn’t hideous looking. It was wood – I like wood – and would serve the purpose it was created for.
A few years ago, hubby and I were at an upscale consignment shop where I saw a dinner set that grabbed me. I absolutely loved the pattern. I was in my late forties and the for the first time I chose dishes and chose them because I liked them.
It wasn’t because someone else liked them and it would serve their intended purpose. I liked their pattern and the energy of the set.
Though it may appear to be a somewhat lame and mundane experience to others, it was quite a big leap for me. Who knew I could discover something about Jan through buying dishes?
In the past, as long as I didn’t have a negative reaction to the colors, pattern or set, it didn’t matter to me what someone else chose.
So what’s the big deal? I didn’t know what I liked. I always deferred to others.
This is what we – as humans – have done over and over in our lives…deferred our likes – or dislikes – to others; silencing or ignoring our inner likes or dislikes. Silencing our inner voice.
Don’t Get Lost
I have been receiving the same message for a few weeks – coming from different sources.
One message was, “Don’t ever forget who you are. Don’t get lost.”
Others were along the lines of:
- Remain true to you
- Don’t lose your truth to “fit in”
- Don’t change you to be accepted by others
- Stand firm in you
I see this time of feeling isolated or alone as a time to discover your own truths.
And to honor your truths.
Then stand firm and don’t lose your truths.
Oh, and P.S. – The isolated feeling is nothing but an illusion – a tool to aid you in looking within. You are never alone.
“Don’t ever forget who you are. Don’t get lost.”
by Jan Toomer
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