Once again I am being asked to write about Acceptance and Allowing. I touched on these briefly, but now offer a closer look.
Some people entered/went through a period of time where heavier energies chaffed them – such as not having patience with some negative attitudes; not wanting to be in crowds (grocery stores, Wally World, etc.) because being around other who had icky attitudes often gave one headaches and/or created a cranky feeling.
Tolerance and patience were in short order; isolation was preferred.
Matching Energies
Having been an asthmatic, I often found myself matching the breathing of those I was around. If they were short-breathed or had labored breathing, I developed it too…breath for breath was matched.
This was uncomfortable for me – and I’ve no clue when or why I began doing this.
After a while, I decided I didn’t need to do that. I could allow them to breathe their way and allow me to breathe the way my body wanted or needed to breathe.
I accepted their right to their experience and breathing and my right to not accept their way as my own.
Changing Perspective
In order to move out of the being chaffed energy-mode, one needs to broaden and/or change their perspective.
Acceptance and Allowing is that act of recognizing that each individual is where they are in the soul development and that they are allowed to be there.
However, this does not mean we are to allow others to mentally, physically, emotionally or verbally abuse or mistreat us; we are not doormats.
We can accept – and respect – their right to be where they are on their life path; but that doesn’t mean we have to allow their energy/attitude in our life.
If where they are is disharmonious to you, then you can step away from their energy and allow yourself to be where you need to be. You do not need to accept their disharmonious-to-you energies in your space.
By doing this, you are no longer trying to match your breathing (or energy) to their breathing (energy). You are both on your path of spiritual growth and experiences.
Different paths…same journey.
So when you are able to change your perspective, you may find other things – daily scenes and daily experiences – seem to take on a new depth.
by Jan Toomer
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